April 24 2022

Learning to Let Go- When Seasons Change

Path through the woods in the spring

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.

Ecclesiastes 3:1

How have you been?  Really?  The last time we chatted, we talked about “living in the what if?”

Has that begun to percolate, not just in your mind, but also in your spirit? Have you sat with it and allowed it the opportunity to shift your thinking?  If not, you may need to go back and revisit it.

One of the truths I have come to learn this year is the importance of sitting with the information we are reading, hearing, and learning.  We are a society that loves to devour information – the more information the better.  However, I fear that our devouring is superficial at best.  When was the last time you sat and thought about what you read?  Discussed it with someone else?  Prayed about it? Allowed it to get down deep into your thinking and into your spirit? Gave it the opportunity to make a difference in your day-to-day life?  Before moving on to the next reading, conference material, sermon, etc.

I think we need to question our intention in devouring such vast amounts of information.  What do we actually intend to do with it?  Do we intend to learn, change and grow?  Or are we just checking off “done” on some invisible checklist, trying to prove that we are smart and capable, that we belong? I am a bit embarrassed to admit that I was caught up in that cycle.  Reading, listening, watching but never really participating. I was working hard to try to fill a void inside with “learning”.  Only to find that even just a few days later I couldn’t recall many of the details of what I had given away so much of my time for; it had been devoured by the next thing.  I was left feeling rushed and disillusioned with my inability to find what I was looking for, despite all the “learning”.

These days I am working on watching what I am taking in, how much I am taking in and being intentional about the time I spend with what I am taking in.  This means I am sharing less on my blog as well.  Moving from sharing just to share, to sharing when there is something to share.

If you have not spent some time in the last blog and wish to stop right here and go back to take a look.  Or if you want to start from here and spend some time in today’s chat. Whatever you choose to do, please consider taking the time to sit with what you read.  Think about it.  Talk about it.  Pray about it. Wrestle with it.  Comment on it.  Ask other readers, or me, questions about it.  However you choose to do it, don’t just devour it and move it- participate, engage with it, and allow it to settle deeper than the surface.

 

Now, onto our thought for today.  How many of you are happy that Spring is finally here? Nico the cat loves the longer days (more time to lie in the sun)!  I have been enjoying more walks outside.  The woods trail I like to walk in was groomed for cross-country skiing only all winter, so I am excited to be able to walk in the woods again.  There is something about being out in the midst of the trees and beside the river.

The first time I got back onto the woods trail, I must admit, I was distracted thinking about how beautiful it had been in early winter, snowy, untouched, soft snow falling and covering the surrounding trees.  Right then it looked bare, somewhat dirty, and unkempt even.  As I walked, I heard God say, “Are you ready to let go?”  “Let go of what?” I quickly responded.  I was in the process of much change and He could have been referring to many things.  His answer – “Everything.”  That was all I heard for some time.

I have been thinking about this for a few weeks now.  The question pops up frequently and at the most unusual times, “Are you ready to let go?”

Has anyone else heard this of late?  Perhaps something similar? It has been my experience, that when God speaks to me about things, He is also speaking to others about the same or similar things as well.

How have you responded?  Do you know what you need to let go of?  Is there one thing in particular or are there a few things on the potential list?

Today as I walked, I heard it again, “Are you ready to let go?” This time I answered, “Yes, I am ready, but you need to show me what I need to let go.” 

I paused and I heard the sweetest voice whisper in my ear, “When seasons change, there is a time of transition – there is beauty in the transition that you must learn to see –it may look and feel barren- but the barrenness is just an emptying so there is room within you to receive.  When seasons change, you must learn to let go, to be emptied, so you are ready to engage – and to be filled with the beauty and joy of the next season. The season is changing – what do you KNOW you NEED to let go?”

The new season is not just about doing something different, trying new things, gathering new information, being a different you.  The new season is mostly about what you let go of.  The doubts, the fears, and the lies you have built your current foundation on.  The obstacles you have placed in front of yourself.

I stopped in the middle of the woods path, beside the beautiful river, and saw for the first time this spring, the new buds on the trees, the new sprigs of green poking up through the dead leaves, the yellow flowers.  At that moment, I was able to stop longing for what it looked like in the winter (what once was) and waiting for what it will look like in the summer (the expectation of what is to come), and in doing so, I saw the beauty of the moment. 

It is a new season.  I need to learn to let some things go.  What about you? 

Are you ready to empty so you can be filled?  Can you let go so you can be in the moment? There is beauty in the transition if we are only open to seeing it.

As I finished my walk, God was gracious to help me to see some of the things I need to let go of. Self-sufficiency was number one.  We were created for relationship – relationship with God and then people.  We were never intended to figure it out or to do it on our own. Foundations built on “I can do it on my own” are foundations built on the sand. Structures or systems in our life that we have created to “survive” need to be deconstructed and reconstructed with the truths that only Jesus can show us. That foundation will be a foundation built on the solid rock.

What about perfectionism and false responsibility?  Doing as a way to prove your worth or to earn your existence?  Running fast and hard to outrun that “thing”? 

I don’t know about you, but these are all things I need to learn to let go. 

As I stood in the woods, by the bridge, over the river, I lifted my palms upward and gave it all to Jesus.  I asked for His forgiveness, not for building the structures I needed to survive at certain points in my life, but for turning away from His offers of help even when I knew, the structures “I built” no longer served me.

“And of His fullness we have all received, and grace for grace.” (John 1:16)

The Passion Translation says it this way: 

“And from the overflow of his fullness we received grace heaped upon more grace!”

In the letting go, in the transition, in the moment, I found His grace.

Do you know what you need to let go of?  Are you ready to offer it up to Jesus?  He is not waiting to pounce on you and condemn you when you lift your palms upward.  He is waiting to hold out His hands to receive what you are ready to let go of and to hold out His arms when you are ready to run into His.

It is a new season.  I am choosing to let some things go.  What about you? 

This is not a word to devour and move on.  This is a word to sit with.  Take the time; allow it to seep below the surface.  Then respond and watch what God will do, not only in your life but also in the lives around you.

Thanks for stopping in for a chat!  I always enjoy our time together.

Drop your thoughts in the comment section below – I would love to hear from you!

Until next time!

Laurie

bridge in the woods
January 1 2022

A Year Later – A New Year, A New Look, A New Mindset

Red heart glowing in midst of dark hearts

I last blogged on January 1, 2021.  One year ago today.  But despite my intentions on Day 1 of last year, my blog remained untouched for an entire year.

In that blog I posted,

“What if, you made a decision to paint a new picture this year? What if, you decided to operate from a new perspective? What if, you choose to live by truth rather than by feelings? What if, you made a decision to really prioritize your life so that your relationship with your Creator was at the VERY top? What if, you made up in your mind to stop running hard after things that are temporal and began running hard after things that are eternal?”

I posted this fully expecting to begin writing a blog for the next week and the next week and the next week.  Blogs full of inspiration, intention, and new mindsets.

However, God had different plans for me, very different plans.

I took the time to do what I suggested in my very own blog (a novel idea) –

“to sit with the Father. Sit quietly and really listen to His heart for you and for those around you and for that outside of your direct sphere of influence. What does He have to share with you on this, the first day of a brand new year, the first day of a brand new opportunity?”

God spoke clearly. 

And I was not ready for what He had to say.

He said, “Stop – set it all aside – until you hear from Me to move forward.”

I was obedient. 

A week turned into two, then three, then a month, and then many months.  A whole year of months.

This was not what I expected when I penned that blog on January 1, 2021.

I went through a variety of emotions.

I was frustrated (I had things to say), then confused (but God I thought you wanted me to do this), a bit angry or maybe even a lot angry (but God I have put all kinds of time and money into this already!) and then I grieved (the loss of my platform, the loss of some of my identity, the loss of a place to express myself, the loss of what I thought God wanted me to do).

And still, no word from God to write.  I wrote in other spaces – for myself, in my journal, as I did my devotions, as part of my counselling homework, in notes and letters to family and friends who needed to know how important they are in my life. 

However, I did not blog. 

I did not write for the many to see –

I wrote only for the few.

What happened in that year of not blogging?

I did not become a better writer.

I did not stockpile all kinds of wonderful ideas for blogging later on.

I did not come up with a new theme, brand, or way of presenting myself on my blog.

I did come to realize that for all my talk of authenticity, I was not authentic.

I learned that for all my talk of changing and shifting mindsets, my mind was closed up tighter than a fortress.

I found my emotions.

I began to give those emotions permission to exist.

I started to allow those emotions out in public, without the need for filtering them first.

I made the decision to open my mouth and allow my voice to come forth – my real voice – the previously heavily censored one.

I discovered I did not really love myself, which stifled my walk with God and contaminated how I loved my neighbour.

I found out that loving yourself requires a lot of hard work.

I learned the hard way that authenticity is more than just a buzzword found on many blogs in the year 2000, including mine. 

I was convicted that blogging comes with a great responsibility to be walking out what you are sharing – really walking it out………not intending to walk it out or wanting to walk it out – but actually putting in the hard work to walk it out.  Even, and probably especially, the parts that your mind resists the most.

Two weeks ago, I heard God clearly say –“It is time to write. But this time you need to do it My way.”

So today – January 1, 2022, I am trying this again.

I am not starting where we left off last year.

Because I am not where I was last year.  

 

A New Year calls for a New Look as well as a New Mindset.

Welcome to the new look. 

The new mindset is still loading, but it is time to begin sharing.

 

This time around, I really do want this to be  more interactive

I now fully understand that I have as much or more to learn from you than you will learn from me

To that end, please be in touch. 

Comment on what you read

Ask questions

Suggest topics for discussion

 

Authenticity requires relationship

Relationship requires conversations (hard and easy ones)

 

Courage is not the fighting of the war

Courage is the showing up

 

Welcome to 2022

I would love to do this year together!